Grief Recovery That Works » stress http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog A website dedicated to grieving and grief recovery. Tue, 01 Mar 2011 22:12:28 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 More on the physical pain caused by grief http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2010/07/21/more-on-the-physical-pain-caused-by-grief/ http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2010/07/21/more-on-the-physical-pain-caused-by-grief/#comments Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:17:18 +0000 James http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2010/07/21/more-on-the-physical-pain-caused-by-grief/ I am working on a book about the physical pain of grief, I hope to have it published in about a year (I am working on another book at the moment). I would like to have anyone who has had pain up to 6 months after a loss to write me and tell me your story. I will include it in the book (I will change your name so no one knows who you are). I hope to collect as many stories as possible to include.

I have received a couple of stories already. One was from a lady called Ann (not her real name) who lost both parents to cancer. She had taken care of them and she had no real health problems until their deaths. Now she has many problems, including physical pain, but she also has a lot of mental problems from the grief, including OCD, bi-polar, and many more. She also has a feeling of abandonment. I am working with her to find a solution to her problems.

I also got word of another woman who came down with a pinched nerve only a month after she lost her husband. I suspect the back pain is caused from the stress of losing her husband, and could be removed with counseling and/or hypnosis.

If you have started having pains, either mental or physical, after the loss of a loved one, or a divorce or a move, etc. Please visit your medical doctor to see if he can find a cause, but also be aware that MDs do not usually know that a physical pain can exist from a mental state, so he may find something physically wrong that is not the cause of your problem (for instance, a herniated disk does not always cause pain). If that is the case, if he does something physical to stop the pain, it may work, but be aware you will have a pain of some other type show up later if it is caused from your grief.

If you have a story to tell me, or would like to have some help with your problem, please email me at griefrecoverythatworks@gmail.com I will do my best to help you get relief or help you find someone in your area that can help you.

James Einert, ND, CH

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]]> http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2010/07/21/more-on-the-physical-pain-caused-by-grief/feed/ 5 The Best Way To Resolve Negative Emotions http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2010/03/31/the-best-way-to-resolve-negative-emotions/ http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2010/03/31/the-best-way-to-resolve-negative-emotions/#comments Tue, 30 Mar 2010 18:45:11 +0000 James http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2010/03/31/the-best-way-to-resolve-negative-emotions/ Today I am going to give you a quote by Robert G. Smith, the creator of Faster EFT. I think this is the key to overcoming your emotional pain associated with grief and loss. And Faster EFT is the easiest and fastest way to resolve this pain.

You can find Robert on YouTube under healingmagic or at http://www.fastereft.com

“The best way to resolve negative emotions (stress, fears or grief) is to address and change the cause of the emotion. What creates emotions is the body’s response to your internal understandings of the external world (thoughts, attitudes, beliefs). It is an internal reaction to perception. When we experience a positive or a negative emotion, the body releases certain chemicals and we feel it physically. This reaction supports, gives meaning to and impacts the mental process. When we experience good feelings like happiness, the body produces chemicals called endorphins that are more powerful than morphine! When we experience a negative emotion, the body produces high levels of seretonin, adrenaline, and cortisol. Emotions, whether good or bad, are felt physically. That is what gives meaning to memory and to the external world. When you understand this connection and have the right skills, you can then create dynamic changes in your life. Until now, we did not have the Skills to Change this reaction.”

I could not have said it better. Stay tuned to this blog and I will explain more about what all this means as I give you suggestions for overcoming your emotional pain from grief and loss.

James Einert, ND, CH

]]> http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2010/03/31/the-best-way-to-resolve-negative-emotions/feed/ 0 The Emotions of Grief http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2008/10/06/the-emotions-of-grief/ http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/2008/10/06/the-emotions-of-grief/#comments Sun, 05 Oct 2008 21:30:10 +0000 James http://griefrecoverythatworks.com/blog/?p=11 Grief is an emotion made up of many different emotions. Grief can include the emotions of hate, love, loss, fear, forgiveness, heartache, stress, and many more. Each person will have grief made up of a different set of emotions. Some may hate the loved one they lost, for any number of reasons. Some may feel overcome with loss. Others may fear what will happen now that the person or place is gone. But in most cases, there will be more than one emotion driving the grief.

Let’s look at some possible examples. Lets say that a woman in her 50s or 60s loses her husband of 45 years to a sudden disease such as heart attack. Her grief emotions might include love, loss, fear of what next, heartache, stress, etc.

A woman or man say 30 something loses a parent who was abusive to them. There could be the emotions of hate, loss, heartache, and fear. Not to mention the hurt they might feel because they had not settled the hurt feelings in the relationship, even if it was not their fault.

Then there could be say a parent whose child was killed at an early age by war, a car wreck, suicide or some disease, and because they had abused this person as a child, they have feelings of incompletetion because they never asked forgiveness for what they did. Or on a similar path, the one who had a falling out with a relative and never made up or asked forgiveness before the death.

There are hundreds or even thousands of situations and combinations of emotions caused by the loss of someone or something.

How do you sort through all these possible emotions and find the right ones much less fix them. Well, using Emotional Freedom Techniques and Neuro-Linguistic Programming we can quickly work through and correct these emotional problems in short order.

Not every emotion has to be addressed. We start with the emotion that is causing the most problem, and we bring the level down to a zero, and then go to the next. EFT will have a domino effect on these emotions and will bring many down at once. Many times it will take only a few sessions to relieve the emotional pain associated with your loss.

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Jim Einert, N.D.

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