You can find Robert on YouTube under healingmagic or at http://www.fastereft.com

“The best way to resolve negative emotions (stress, fears or grief) is to address and change the cause of the emotion. What creates emotions is the body’s response to your internal understandings of the external world (thoughts, attitudes, beliefs). It is an internal reaction to perception. When we experience a positive or a negative emotion, the body releases certain chemicals and we feel it physically. This reaction supports, gives meaning to and impacts the mental process. When we experience good feelings like happiness, the body produces chemicals called endorphins that are more powerful than morphine! When we experience a negative emotion, the body produces high levels of seretonin, adrenaline, and cortisol. Emotions, whether good or bad, are felt physically. That is what gives meaning to memory and to the external world. When you understand this connection and have the right skills, you can then create dynamic changes in your life. Until now, we did not have the Skills to Change this reaction.”

I could not have said it better. Stay tuned to this blog and I will explain more about what all this means as I give you suggestions for overcoming your emotional pain from grief and loss.

James Einert, ND, CH

Even though my son has been divorced for a couple of years, I happened to run into his ex last week. It was a little awkward, even though I have no hard feeling toward her nor do I blame her completely for the divorce. I can imagine it would be very different if my son had seen her. He may have felt grief from seeing her.

If you have been married to someone for even a short period of time, after a divorce you will feel grief from the loss. You will have many of the same emotional pains as any other griever.

You may feel guilt, loneliness, heartache, physical pain, depression plus many other emotional feelings.

The way to get over (or through) grief from divorce is the same as for death or any other loss. You must work through the emotional pain and get your life back. I use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to take care of these problems. EFT will help you get past the emotional pains of grief.

Please keep watching this website as I will be posting a video to teach you the techniques for doing EFT to overcome your grief pain.

James Einert, ND, CH

http://www.griefrecoverythatworks.com

The Bible says we should cry at birth and rejoice at death. So should we grieve?

Webster’s Dictionary gives grief the following definition, “Deep and poignant distress caused by or as by bereavement.” It also calls it suffering. So should we grieve?

First, let me say I believe there is a difference in sadness and grief. The above definition calls grief distress and suffering. To me this is much more than sadness. According to the dictionary sadness and sorrow are associated with grief. But I know from my experience when my mom died, I was very sad. At times I am still sad when I think of her being gone, but I am not depressed, or hurt. Usually these thoughts of sadness just lead me into happy memories of when I had mom with me, and thoughts of her being happy and well in heaven (being a Christian).

But what of those who grieve for months, or even years, unable to function well because of the loss of a loved one? Is this good, or even normal? I think not!

I believe there should be a time of sadness and heavy heartedness right after the loss of a loved one (or pet or divorce or a move), but I think under normal circumstances a person should pretty much be over their loss to the point of normal function within a few days to a couple of weeks after the loss. How long should we grieve (suffer)? Who does grief help or hurt? In the short term it helps us all to have a good cry as we remember our loss, but in the long run we hurt ourselves and those around us when our grief continues to reduce our function for too long a time.

Also long term grief can lead to all kinds of health problems, from depression to pain of all kinds. It is important to help those who are still suffering from loss after a month or two.

How can we help? There are many ways to help those who are suffering from deep grief without resorting to therapy or drugs. First you can be there for them. Help them remember the good times they had with their loved one (pet, X, home, etc.). Keep the experience positive, but let them cry if they need to. It would probably be OK to offer them a shoulder to cry on, but don’t let them dwell on the sadness and pain too long. Keep coming back to the good memories, as these are the healing memories. Let them know, especially in a death, that the loved one will always be with them in the wonderful memories they left behind.

Also, keep checking this website http://griefrecoverythatworks.com for some new CD programs designed to help reinforce the good memories that we have of our loved ones, and to help people only remember the good times. These CDs will be wonderful assets to helping heal the grief we are suffering. I expect to have some of these finished by the 1st of June, so keep watching the website. I will also have a FREE program to help those who have just had a loss to sleep better. Many times right after a loss, sleep is the hardest thing to find.

I hope this article has been of some help to you and your family. Please keep reading these posts for other helpful articles in the future. Subscribe to this feed to get updates when a new article is posted. It is my hope to start posting articles more often in the near future.

Thanks and God Bless you!

James Einert, ND, CH

Grief Recovery Specialist