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“The best way to resolve negative emotions (stress, fears or grief) is to address and change the cause of the emotion. What creates emotions is the body’s response to your internal understandings of the external world (thoughts, attitudes, beliefs). It is an internal reaction to perception. When we experience a positive or a negative emotion, the body releases certain chemicals and we feel it physically. This reaction supports, gives meaning to and impacts the mental process. When we experience good feelings like happiness, the body produces chemicals called endorphins that are more powerful than morphine! When we experience a negative emotion, the body produces high levels of seretonin, adrenaline, and cortisol. Emotions, whether good or bad, are felt physically. That is what gives meaning to memory and to the external world. When you understand this connection and have the right skills, you can then create dynamic changes in your life. Until now, we did not have the Skills to Change this reaction.”

I could not have said it better. Stay tuned to this blog and I will explain more about what all this means as I give you suggestions for overcoming your emotional pain from grief and loss.

James Einert, ND, CH

The really important information is not whether or not there are stages of grief, but how to recover from grief.

Grief is an emotional nightmare. It covers many emotions, many times several at once, but no matter what emotions you suffer in grief, they are your emotions. They come from you, not from anyone else. They are your personal emotions.

I think there are three main types of grieving people. First there are those that grieve right away and get over the major issues of grief quickly. Second there are those who grieve for a long time and finally get past the major grief issues. Then there are those who never “get over” their grief. Of course there are people who fall between the cracks of these 3 simple definitions, but I am looking from a broad perspective here.

I believe those who grieve right away and get over the major issues quickly, are those who have a good understanding of what grief and the loss of their loved one means to them. They have a good image of what death means to them and are able to cope with the loss in their life. In the second case, they have an idea of what death means to them, but are just not totally prepaired to let go of the loved one. (All three types of mourners will keep memories of their loved one close at hand.) The third type person, is not ready to lose their loved one, and never had any intention of them dying. They can grasp the concept of the person being gone. But are not certain of where the loved one is, or if there is any hope of ever seeing them again.

Many people in the first group have some kind of religious influence in their life and expect their loved one is in a better place, and have the hope that someday they will see them again. Of course even some of the people in this group are very emotional and can’t get over missing their loved one. These people will continue to grieve for an extended period of time, and may have a lot of trouble getting over their loss.

The 2nd and 3rd groups of people probably don’t have as much hope of their loved one being in a better place or of them seeing them ever again, and thereby would normally be at greater risk of being more emotional at the death of a loved one.

The bottom line is if you are still having trouble getting over the loss of a loved one, and it has been more than a month since your loss, you might want to get help in overcoming your grief.

The good news here is I am very close to releasing my grief recovery program on this website and making it available to help you get over your grief issues quickly and completely. Keep watching this blog and I will announce when it is available for you to buy. I have spent the past several months testing it out and tweeking it, and it is going to be a wonderful program at a price you can afford.

God Bless and keep you!

James Einert, ND, CH

You may have lost your mother in that way, but most likely you lost your mother in a different way. It really doesn’t matter how you lost your mother, I am sure the pain was great.

Mothers are hard to lose, especially if you are really close to your mother as I was. The pain will never go away completely, but it can be bearable. We need to be sure to let our emotions flow out.

If you have just lost your mother, please be sure to get in plenty of “crying time”. We must be able to work through our emotional shifts and let these emotions run their course. They must not be “bottled up”. Please find a way to forgive your mother and yourself for anything you may feel needs forgiveness.

Realize that if you need closure with your mother, that you can find a way to do that. It may involve a trip to the cemetery, or just talking to her in the quiet of your bedroom. Whatever you need to do to feel closure needs to be done. Many people find comfort in writing a note or letter to your mother and burning it or sending it up in a helium fill balloon. You might like to do one of these yourself.

I know you will never forget your mother, heaven forbid that could ever happen, but if you work through you emotions the pain can turn into the wonderful memories you have with her. Dwell on those wonderful memories and don’t ever let them go, those are the most precious gifts your mother gave you.

I hope you have a wonderful mother’s day. I know I will remember the wonderful times I had with my mother.

James Einert, N.D