Grief Recovery That Works

Posted By James on April 28, 2009

I lost my mom about 5 years ago. She had a long life of pain and sickness, and had a stroke before she died and was unable to eat which lead to her death. She was able to let us know she did not want to go to the hospital, and we had to watch her lay in bed dying for that entire week!

You may have lost your mother in that way, but most likely you lost your mother in a different way. It really doesn’t matter how you lost your mother, I am sure the pain was great.

Mothers are hard to lose, especially if you are really close to your mother as I was. The pain will never go away completely, but it can be bearable. We need to be sure to let our emotions flow out.

If you have just lost your mother, please be sure to get in plenty of “crying time”. We must be able to work through our emotional shifts and let these emotions run their course. They must not be “bottled up”. Please find a way to forgive your mother and yourself for anything you may feel needs forgiveness.

Realize that if you need closure with your mother, that you can find a way to do that. It may involve a trip to the cemetery, or just talking to her in the quiet of your bedroom. Whatever you need to do to feel closure needs to be done. Many people find comfort in writing a note or letter to your mother and burning it or sending it up in a helium fill balloon. You might like to do one of these yourself.

I know you will never forget your mother, heaven forbid that could ever happen, but if you work through you emotions the pain can turn into the wonderful memories you have with her. Dwell on those wonderful memories and don’t ever let them go, those are the most precious gifts your mother gave you.

I hope you have a wonderful mother’s day. I know I will remember the wonderful times I had with my mother.

James Einert, N.D

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